Tuesday, 31 May 2016

13/52 // ways to tackle feeling down and unmotivated

Sometimes life is overwhelming. It's easy to get cloudy headed and fall into a puddle of negativity and bad vibes. I find trying to keep a positive mental attitude (PMA) when possible, really really helpful. It's not possible 100% of the time and it's not easy, but here are some things that help when I'm feeling negative and hopeless. I've anointed it my personal 'get out of that slug life,' note to self, for future reference.
❤︎ Make a to-do list and plan your week. Schedule time for getting things done, time for rest and time for everything else. If you don't have a proper diary, just make a week plan on a piece of scrap paper and keep it somewhere easily visible. Schedule time for fun things and relaxation as well as work, so you have something to look forward to, Once you've got a general schedule down, it makes life seem less overwhelming. It's okay if you don't 100% stick to it - don't give up on it, just try again.

❤︎ Make something. Do something creative. I always feel 110% more energised when I've done something creative. This could be your passion, planning a blog post, starting a piece of art, working on that thing, or finally finishing that other thing, taking a photo of something beautiful. Alternatively you could pick up a new book you've been looking forward to, or return to an old favourite for some comfort. 

❤︎ Read and collect some inspirational quotes. Pinterest quotes always motivates me to get out of a slump and do something. Writing them down in your phone is helpful too, so whenever you feel down you can quickly read some nice words. I use this board to collate quotes that make me feel all happy and motivated. I have so so many quotes that inspire me but that's a whole other blog post! Some of my simple favs are: 'So far you've survived 100 percent of your worst days. You're doing great,' and 'when you think you're screwed, remember we're all on a big wet ball, floating in the dark.' The latter in particular helps when I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed and has a kind of grounding effect. 

❤︎ Make a positive playlist and put it on repeat. - I have a playlist on spotify specifically for songs that make me feel positive and hopeful. Alternatively, sometimes listening to sad songs can help you feel a bit more understood, but don't fall into the trap of getting bogged down by the sad songs! To quote The Maine, 'no one gets me like the sad songs, when I'm lost and I'm all alone.'

❤︎ Tidy/clean your space. - Cleaning is always quite satisfying. When things are feeling overwhelming, a messy environment sometimes makes things seem x1000 worse. Tackle each area bit by bit if you have lots to do, and put on your comfort music, tv or film in the background to keep the monotony at bay. 

❤︎ Go outside. Cloud watch, gaze into the depths of the universe, just absorb the outside air. If it's winter, put on a coat and scarf and go outside, embrace the cold, even if it's just for two minutes in your garden/street. Go somewhere you love (or just really like) and embrace nature for a bit.

❤︎ Exercise/Shower/Nap. I recommend Blogilates video workouts for some simple and easy ways to get some exercise, you don't need any equipment and Cassey (aka blogilates) is so motivational and amazing! I always feel ten thousand times better after taking a shower, all clean and refreshed. Taking some time to moisturise and look after your body is always helpful as well. Naps are a bit controversial as they're sometimes hit and miss but when they're good, they're good! 30 minutes usually works for me, I set my alarm for about 45 minutes to give myself 15 minutes to fall asleep! Taking time to look after your body is hard when you feel a bit down and gross but I find starting with a shower is usually the way to go!

❤︎ Write your feelings. Find an old notebook and just write your feelings. You don't have to write everyday but if you don't want to talk to someone about your problems, or have no one to talk to, writing your feelings can really help, and even give you a new perspective.

❤︎ Cry if you need to. It's okay to cry. Crying is kind of refreshing. I always feel so much better after a good cry. I like to see it as expelling my problems or whatever I'm upset about. Once you've wiped away the tears, it's like a weight has been lifted, and I force myself to stop thinking about it.

❤︎ Talk to someone. Even if it is just a simple conversation, it can really help. Ask them about the highlights of their day, talk about all the good things and the funny things.  
How do you get yourself out of a slump? I'd love to hear some of your tips! 

Monday, 30 May 2016

12/52 // thanks internet

After an unintentional break and a lot of indecision over whether to just let this series die, I have returned with some more thoughts. The plan is to write two posts a week so I can catch up and hit 52 thoughts posts by the end of the year. I'm saying no to giving up! I'm going to complete what I started. cute girl using snapchat dog filter
Let's just take a moment to appreciate snapchat filters, and specifically the dog filter (my username is rosariololz, expect more dog selfies and inner monologues expressed through images)

I love the internet and just want to say thanks, and what better way than to publish a blog post dedicated to the internet, on the internet. Whilst there are downsides to the internet (procrastination, abuse etc.) as someone who grew into an adult with the internet (from about age ten!) I can't imagine my life without it. I want to celebrate some of the positives, the great parts of the internet, how it's enriching lives and making positive changes.

 Social justice! The internet schooled me on so many social justice issues, some that I personally have experienced but couldn't quite put a name to, as well as those affecting other people. It's made me a much more compassionate, empathetic, and open minded person. It's also been super important to me as a brown girl growing up in a very white area! 
 Fundraising sites. Literally saving people's lives and helping out other people in need, which is pretty damn amazing. 
 FEMINISM – oh my glob, where would I be without internet feminism!? Literally no one irl would have introduced me to feminism, self-love, body positivity, or self-acceptance. I would have continued my life as a burrito of shame and self-loathing. Internet babes forever. 
 Accessibility to everything and anything - people, music, tv, films, new ideas and viewpoints, information and knowledge.
  Connecting and reconnecting with people. You can meet people all over the world, people who have the same interests are you. Especially for older generations, I know my parents have reconnected with people they've lost contact with over the years thought the internet. 
 Blogging, Youtube and self-made creators - you can source content relevant to your life, rather than what is dictated to you through television. There is so much more accessibility, representation and flexibility with platforms like blogging and youtube than with traditional publishing and journalism and television. You can literally make something and people all over the world can see it, that kinda blows my mind a little bit. 
 MEMES - need I say more? 
  Online shopping, online ordering for almost everything (zero face to face interaction + pizza) 
  Providing a world of opportunities and entertainment for us internet peeps. 
 And of course, cute animal videos.
I have no idea who I would be without the internet, it's opened my mind and helped shape me into a better person, and helped me become so much more comfortable and accepting of myself, so thanks internet.

What are your favourite things about the internet!?

Thursday, 19 May 2016

drunk with freedom

AS of Tuesday, I have officially completed all my university work and I'm free. For the first time in my life I don't have anything education related to prepare for in September and I feel drunk with freedom. I can do anything I want and it's a little overwhelming but a heck of a lot freeing.
I've neglected my blog for a good couple of months, but I have returned, unburdened by university guilt and with plenty of creativity and ideas. There's nothing like a unexpected break to spark your creativity. I've been silently reading blog posts between eating breakfast and starting my day but I'm finally ready to get back into the blog world and I'm very very pumped about it. Before I do though, here's a brief summary of some of the  things I've been doing over the past two months. 

Realised I can't roller-skate, play pool, or handle my alcohol very well
❤︎ My dreams of joining a roller derby were crushed when I realised just how awful I am at roller skating (I fell over like ten times)
❤︎ Turned 21!!!
❤︎ Became a true hipster and acquired a polaroid camera
❤︎ Enjoyed the sun and appreciated nature a lil bit more
❤︎ Wrote and handed in two dissertations (that's like 14,000 words)
❤︎ Had a bit of a crisis about what i'm doing after graduation because the real world is scary for a baby like me
❤︎ Kinda sorta fell in love with zayn, halsey, and the front bottoms
❤︎ Got even better at procrastinating
❤︎ A lot of procrastination really
❤︎ Survived university

How has life been for you guys recently? feel free to share lil' bits of your life!
i'm always up for hearing about them!